11 Ways to identify family relationships toxic and alienated

Are you in a toxic relationship with your family?

The two of you are families. Perhaps for a big chunk of your childhood, you grew up with them and lived with them. Much was being laughed, hugged, and exchanged. There are also struggles.

You know how your brain probably works better than anybody else. In adulthood, however, those close to you can often become unknown, inexperienced, cold, and carefree. You consider yourself separated from their lives for no apparent reason. Your feelings of harmony are denied gradually. In the rain, you were left out.

There is always an explanation of why people work that way. But metamorphosis is sometimes so gradual that it hits you, and one day you wake up and wonder, “How did it happen?

You want them back. You want them back. And you begin to think and blame yourself. Is that the time I agreed not to keep their company but to go to the party? Is it without asking that I used his stuff? To merit that, what have I done? What should I do to improve it?

Although it is good to ask yourself these questions, the lesson you will know is often to lose sight of who you were and embrace who you are.

This is because of my sister relationship. We were always near and I saw her as my role model when I was growing up. I’ve been timid, nerdy, and runty. At sports, she was stunning, famous, and healthy.
But four years later, after she went to college and I went with her on another continent. We would knock heads over several things when we met. In the years after high school, she had grown bitter, as I grew up, became confident, and explored the world impulsively. Still, I thought we always were there for each other, despite our differences.

Then she married a man who didn’t keep up with either me or our parents. They started to experience weird emotional self-sufficiency.

Her family became very cold, defensive, and resentful and she began to cut me out of her life. I was trying to reach out to alter the link, but she refused to give it up. That’s how she was always proud.

She replied, “That’s been a long time ago.” One night when I told her I loved her and wanted we could be close, as usual.

The relationship has gradually deteriorated in recent years. I’ve struggled with the hurt of “losing” my sister, as well as feelings of self-blame as I struggled to find a reason for her change. I searched my brain for recollections of what I might do wrong, but my mind is pulling a blank line.

Then I decided that I didn’t want to stay longer hurt. I didn’t want to wait and try to revive the sisterhood that we once had.
I realized that my sister wasn’t the person I knew once and I gotta accept this, learn to go on and on. So, in order to achieve my happiness and mental health, I decided to take certain decisions.

I hope that this guide will benefit people who have a dysfunctional and alienate relationship with a family member who once is close to them.

Here are 11 ways of dealing with toxic and alienated families: